Luxembourg psychologist advocates for introduction of 'parenting licence'

On Saturday, psychologist and family therapist Gilbert Pregno shared his insights on RTL Radio, expressing concerns about the impact of parental stress on children's daily lives. The discussion included perspectives from children, educators, teaching staff, and parents.

Pregno noted that the situation for children in Luxembourg has deteriorated compared to a decade ago, when he last addressed the issue in an interview with our colleagues.

Challenges most pronounced among young children

The difficulties are particularly evident in young children, Pregno explained, pointing out that education is no longer a priority for many families. He urged parents and caregivers to place children at the centre of their efforts.

As a psychologist, Pregno focuses on individual cases rather than conducting large-scale studies. Through these cases, he often observes that children are not receiving the attention they need.

Pregno also highlighted that today's fast-paced environment is less conducive to creating the safe and emotionally nourishing surroundings essential for young children. He emphasised that a stable, supportive environment is crucial for early childhood development.

"Luxembourg as a country is hostile to education"

While acknowledging some positive measures, Pregno criticised Luxembourg as a country hostile to education. He did, however, praisee initiatives such as parental leave, which allows parents to stay home with their baby for the first 15 months but cautioned that such policies do not guarantee that children receive adequate care.

Too many care structures, too little coordination

Luxembourg's childcare landscape is overcrowded with structures and actors, making meaningful coordination difficult, Pregno argued. He called for a shift from quantity to quality in the system.

A child who spends the entire day in school and then goes to a drop-in centre ("maison relais") is damaged by this routine, Pregno stated bluntly. He criticised the packed schedules many children endure, advocating instead for a "less is more" approach. Pregno emphasised the value of allowing children to experience boredom, a concept he feels has been largely lost.

The case for a "parenting licence"

Pregno clarified that his remarks are not intended to guilt parents, acknowledging that many must work full-time and still act responsibly. However, his work often brings him into contact with families struggling to provide the support children need.

To address this, Pregno recommended parenting courses for those about to become parents. He also openly supports the idea of a "parenting licence," suggesting it could help parents better understand how to care for young children. "It is simply crucial for a child that parents know what they are doing," he stressed.

No mobile phone consumption before the age of four

Pregno strongly advised against mobile phone use for young children, citing research that shows the negative impact of moving images on brain development. He warned that such stimuli can be addictive and disruptive.

Young children up to the age of three or four should not have access to mobile phones or tablets, Pregno emphasised. Beyond that age, usage should be carefully monitored. He also raised concerns about children and teenagers accessing inappropriate content through smartphones and social media.

Pregno criticised adults for setting a poor example by overusing their own devices.

Is the desire for children declining?

Raising children requires significant time and financial resources, Pregno acknowledged. He expressed understanding for couples who choose not to have children for extended periods, citing the substantial commitment involved.

Pregno also highlighted couples who decide against parenthood due to the uncertainties of today's world.

Despite these challenges, Pregno offered a hopeful perspective, describing children as something "extraordinarily wonderful." He encouraged couples struggling with infertility not to lose hope and to remain optimistic in their journey toward parenthood.